24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage My daughter, don’t cause a separation short sexy wedding dresses
between your man and his siblings; it
could be dangerous for you when they
finally speak with one voice.
• My daughter, I know that some of you
girls don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t ever think
like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s
wife-to-be should start wishing you're
dead now.
• My daughter, listen to me, when I
married your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow with him and
today, those cars out there are some of
the results of what we started so little,
together, and we’re proud looking at
them.
• My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in your time, some of you girls
now get pregnant before the wedding
day, well, it never happened in our time
because no matter what, we never
opened our laps before the wedding.
• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of your father because I got to
my limit of patience and that was
the only thing I could do, but one thing I
haven’t said was that we settled the
issue that same day and that was the
last time I tried that. • My daughter, look up there. That’s the
wedding picture of your father and I, look
at him smiling, I know you've seen it
many times but what you did not know is
that your father was angry before taking
this picture, I hope you find a man whose anger doesn't last till the next day.
• My daughter, when your Father was
riding a bicycle, I was always happy to
hop on it and ride with him, not because I
didn't see those men in their little cars
but because my eyes also saw those men trekking to their farms.
• My daughter, if you and your husband
eat a little food with love, you both would
be satisfied. Times are not always the
same; support him in every phase he’s
passing through. • My daughter, don’t ever close your laps
to your husband in bed , the day he paid
your dowry was the day you lost your will
to do so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy
him even if you were angry with him.
• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more proud of you if you’re
learned and not totally dependent
on him. Strive to make your own money
and while you're at it, be humble.
• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I
did meet with your Father was open and good enough for our discussions, yes; it
was open and good enough if you
understand what I mean.
• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy
legs and firm bosoms to show our men ,
in fact, we had the finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our
body, not because we were not civilized
as you people would call it, but because
we know that the eyes of men are
hungry, many of them would only come,
touch and go their way. • My daughter, there is this thing you girls
now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well,
you can prove to be equal to a
man in the society but please, not in your
marriage because at my old age, I don’t
want to start counting your husbands. • My daughter, marriage is not a
Rehabilitation Centre, if he’s not good
enough for you before marriage, nothing
he does would be good enough after
marriage.
• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown , yes, because to my
husband; your father, I still want to look
sexy. So, take good care of your body,
look good for your man and don’t look
like a grandma after giving birth.
• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not interested in you coming to me
always if anything goes wrong with
your husband. Though nowadays I see
some mothers controlling the homes of
their sons and daughters, I would only
say; shame on them! • My daughter, for you to have a peaceful
home and well- trained children, have
one voice with your husband, join
him to say NO when he’s saying NO
before the kids but later when you both
are alone, you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the children will see a
loophole to misbehave, either to you or
their father.
• My daughter, if you chose to live
together with a man that you’re yet to be
married to , and you are complaining that he hasn't proposed to you, oh, he already
did. Whatever he said that made you
start living with him was his proposal.
• My daughter, your generation does not
see any pride in been a virgin before
marriage, it’s a shame! Your father met me a virgin and he brought more
yams to my parents and up till today, he’s
still proud of me when we discuss in
that direction.
• My daughter, I know that no man out
there is complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim, fair and
handsome, if he’s a woman-beater,
please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly
that will give you the respect you
deserve as a woman.
• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture and lifestyle of whoever you
chose to marry . In some part of Africa,
you knee down to greet your man’s
parents while in some part outside Africa;
you can even call them by their first name
and ask for a handshake. Whatever they believe in, if you've chosen him,
believe it with him also.
• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a
married man, whether his excuse was
that he doesn't find happiness with his
wife or he would have married you if he had met you first, if you ever try it, I curse
you already.
• My daughter, when I say over 52 years
of marriage , it wasn't that I did not see
any reason to leave your father, I saw a
lot of them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to stay married.
• My daughter, these are part of the
wisdom i have gathered over the years.
and If I had taken my time to tell
you all these, and your marriage doesn't
last like that of your father and I, then I had wished i never gave birth to
you.